The 10 Commandments Of Dating You Must Follow To Have A Successful Relationship

We’ve come a long way since “going steady” and “getting pinned” were considered benchmarks for a flourishing couple.

Nowadays, people can more easily define a “basic bitch” than their own relationship status. While the times have most certainly changed, I’d argue that there is still a desire and need for a few common courtesies.

They may even be all the more important now that single Americans outnumber their married counterparts for the first time in history.

We may call it hooking up rather than dating, swipe on our phones rather than approach strangers in a bar or blur the lines between friendships and romance, but that doesn’t make our methods any better or worse. In fact, even casual flings can be healthy and fun.

With all due respect to Pat Benatar, love doesn’t have to be a battlefield; we all just need to agree on a few basic ground rules. So, whether you’re a guy or a girl, gay or straight, looking for love or just a good lay, here are your 10 commandments of modern dating.

Consider me God in this scenario.

1. THOU SHALT NOT BEAR FALSE FEELINGS

Let’s be real here: Are you actually into this person or are you keeping him on the back burner in case nothing better comes along? If it’s the latter, channel your inner Moses and let those people go.

You might hurt his feelings in the moment, but you’ll be doing him a favor in the long run. Trust.

2. THOU SHALT HONOR HONESTY ABOVE ALL ELSE

Ditch the Tough Guy and Cool Girl act already and be yourself. If whomever you’re seeing can’t appreciate the real you, then let it be their loss. Let your freak flag fly!

Someone who really likes you will appreciate your special snowflake-ness above all else. Who knows, you might even a share a few quirks.

3. THOU SHALT NOT JUDGE BASED ON SUPERFICIALITY

You’ll only date someone taller than 6’0″? Only be seen with someone smaller than a size 4? Stop picturing what Instagram filter you’ll use and start imagining your day-to-day relationship.

Would you call that person to bitch about your boss? Could your friends survive an entire weekend away with him? Consider these your new baseline requirements.People will spend .000035 seconds evaluating the hotness of your significant other then go right back to figuring out which “Girls” character they’re most like from a Buzzfeed quiz. That’ll be it.

4. THOU SHALT HAVE SEX WHENEVER THOU IS READY

Buying dinner is not a one-way ticket inside someone’s pants, nor should you expect it to be. In the same regard, waiting until after the stereotypical three dates does not ensure a healthy, long-term relationship.

Go with your gut, and do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable. In today’s Tinder-verse, everyone and anyone can get laid if they really want to, so just be real about what you want.

If being that upfront sounds more awkward than waking up next to a stranger, I’d start questioning your logic.

5. THOU SHALT NOT COVET THE “TIMELINE”

Ah, the timeline. In a perfect Stepford world, everyone would find the lid to their pot by 22, be married by 26 and pop babies out by 30. Alas, we live in reality. And, by the way, it’s much better out here.

Life is not a race with some imaginary finish line, so stop comparing your journey to everyone else’s. Being a real adult is about finding out what makes you happy and going for it. Everything else will fall into place after that.

6. THOU SHALT NOT TAKE EVERYTHING PERSONALLY

A very wise friend once wrote, “Ultimately, it is completely possible to be absolutely in love with someone who is wrong for you.” Remember, you are no less valuable just because one individual doesn’t feel the same spike in hormones as you do. They just weren’t the right one.

7. THOU SHALT BELIEVE THOSE WHO SAY THEY AREN’T INTERESTED<

They may not always say it outright (see: commandment one), but people who are no longer invested let it be known.

If they ignore you, cancel plans constantly without a valid excuse and generally don’t make you important, they are sending a clear message. Listen up, pay attention and move the frig on.

8. THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY (SIDENOTE: ALSO A REAL COMMANDMENT)

I recently rekindled with an old flame only to learn after our date that he’s already in a serious relationship. Bad move. It’s time for all of us to grow up and be honest with each other. If you’re unhappy in your current relationship, end it before moving on. Case closed.

9. REMEMBER THINE OWN HEARTBREAK

We’ve all been there: the tears, the overindulgence in junk food, the righteous indignation when relaying the story to friends. But do we ever consider the effects when we’re the villains in this scenario?

Not every ex-girlfriend is crazy, not every former boyfriend is an asshole, but we should all take a little responsibility for when we’ve played those roles.

That doesn’t mean whipping ourselves nightly (unless you’re into that sort of thing) or banishing ourselves to a lifetime of loneliness. It just means learning from our past mistakes.

10. THOU SHALT DO UNTO OTHERS, AS THOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU

Feelings are bound to get hurt when emotions are this involved, but it all comes down to Aretha Franklin and her famous spelling bee: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. As long as we can all agree to that, the other commandments will fall into place.

written by: Emily Sher 

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She is so cute....
I think I like her...
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Former Miss Turkey Faces Prison For 'Insulting' The Country's President

  ANKARA, Turkey (AP) — The lawyer for a model and former Miss Turkey says she could face up to two years in prison for social media posts that prosecutors have deemed to be critical of President Recep Tayyip Erdogan.
Emre Telci said Wednesday an Istanbul prosecutor is demanding that Merve Buyuksarac be prosecuted on charges of insulting a public official. A court will decide whether to start proceedings.
Buyuksarac was detained last month for sharing a satirical poem on her Instagram account. She denies insulting Erdogan.

She becomes the latest figure to face trial for insulting Erdogan, amid fear the country is lurching toward authoritarian rule.
In recent years, Turkey has curbed media freedoms, cracked down on critical social media postings 
and prosecuted hundreds of people who took part in mass anti-government protests




Claire..

The 5 amazing health benefits of Agbalumo (African Cherry) | Must See

Popularly called Agbalumo, Udara, and Otien in some parts of Nigeria, the African cherry fruit has lots of health benefits that will surprise anyone! The exotic fruit which has a chewable edible skin that ranges in color from green to orange, depending on the stage of ripeness.

The tender, sweet inner flesh is off-white with seeds making the inner to look like a star-shaped fruit. This obviously shows where it got the nickname ‘star apple’. purple and white and has a star shape formed by seeds through the middle of the fruit. The beautiful fruit can be gotten mostly everywhere in Nigeria towards the end of November till later in March when it would have gone out of season.

According to NurseRita, here are a few out of the countless benefits of African Cherry:

Vitamins and Minerals
Star apples serve as a good source of calcium, with each serving providing you with 10 percent of the amount you require each day. The calcium lends strength to your bones and teeth, and it may also lessen symptoms of premenstrual syndrome, such as cramping and abdominal bloating. This fruit also contains 5 percent of the daily recommended value per serving of vitamin C and vitamin A. Additionally, one serving of star apples serves up 2 percent of the iron, a mineral vital for oxygenating your body, that you need every day.

Helps Diabetic conditions
Star apples may have particular benefits for diabetics. Research published in the September 2009 edition of the “African Journal of Pharmacy and Pharmacology” indicates that the leaves of this fruit may reduce glucose levels in diabetic rabbits, the same function that insulin serves. Take note, however, that consuming star apple leaves appears to have a toxic affect when eaten in large quantities. More research is needed to determine the effectiveness of star apple leaves to control diabetes in humans.

Medicinal Uses
The star apple is a folk remedy in several countries, although no research exists to confirm these uses. The seeds of this fruit may be useful to reduce fevers and treat diarrhea. Some people also eat this fruit to reduce the inflammation associated with laryngitis and pneumonia. Other uses, including treatment for hypertension, tooth abscesses, heart problems, intestinal issues and cancer exist, but do not eat star apple for any medical condition without first consulting your physician.

Helps You Lose Weight
Eating a serving of star apple contributes 3 g of fiber to the recommended daily intake of 25 to 38 g. Fiber provides bulk to your diet, a factor that can make your stomach feel fuller for longer. This can keep you from eating too much, and it may help you lose weight. This nutrient can also help protect you from diabetes and some forms of cancer.

All-Round Basic Nutrition
1-cup serving of fresh star apple contains 67 calories. Eating star apple as a snack is a good choice as the calories are low and it provides no fat; however, this may not be enough calories to ease hunger pains and boost energy levels, as between-meal snack are meant to do. The Diet Channel notes that 100 to 200 calories per snack is best; consider eating an oz. of cheese or a tsp. of peanut butter to boost the number of calories into this range. One serving of star apple also has 15 g of carbohydrates, or 11.5 percent of the 130 g suggested for daily consumption by the Institute of Medicine.

- Kolawole Samuel..

Meet the Nigerian guy that has never been turned down by any woman – See how he looks

Nigerian actors have always been known to be difficult to hold down for the females, but now we get to meet one who has never been turned down by a woman.

Nigerian award winning director, Elvis Chuks has said his game is so good, that all girls he goes for, fall for him.

Meet Nigerian Actor That Has Never Been Turned Down By A Woman

He told City People magazine that girls have been the ones disturbing his peace from day one.

Excerpts:

Have you ever been turned down by a woman?

Never! They are plenty disturbing my peace. I am blessed even before I became a star.

On why he is yet to tie the knot, the director said ‘I try to take my time and do the right thing. So I don’t do it twice’.

Elvis Chuks movie credits include, Save a Soul 2(2007), Living Abroad (2004) and Save a Soul (2007).

Kolawole Samuel..

China & Russia send sophisticated weapons to Nigeria

This type of new war equipment landed at our airport to support our Military. USA has refused to sell to us war equipments because of Gay law but we Thank you CHINA AND RUSSIA for your support.

God bless Nigeria, it is well....

3 die, others injured trying to escape from Customs Officers

Three young ladies lost their lives on Thursday along Lagos-Benin highway after their bus was hit by a vehicle carrying the operatives of Nigerian Customs Service in a hot chase.

According to an eyewitness,the deceased ladies were in a hummer bus with a registration number EDO AKA 35 LG carrying their goods known okirika.

Hmmm, too bad, may their soul rest in perfect peace.

Ladies, before you go spreading your legs for a married man, you need to see this!

THIS REPOST IS SPECIFICALLY FOR THOSE GIRLS THAT KEEP SLEEPING AROUND, JUMPING FROM ONE BED TO ANOTHER.

1. The only thing he wants is s*x. He comes and goes back home to his wife.

2. He is never going to leave his wife for you.

3. You are most likely not the only one-side dish he’s having.

4. After using you, he will move onto someone else.

5. He doesn’t owe you anything.

6. Getting pregnant on purpose won’t trap him, his kids are at home with his wife, so think!

7. His money and properties are his and his wife’s, you only get the small balance.

8. You will never be part of his future.

9. There is certainly one guy out there that is madly in love with you and wants to make you his “one and only wife”….

Be wise, don't be deceived, wait patiently for your own husband and stop running after any persons own..

Kolawole Samuel..